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‎25-07-2016 08:14 PM
‎25-07-2016 08:14 PM
Dealing with a relationship breakdown due to depression
We both still love each other and have had a couple of face to face meetings since the break up and there is no bad feelings from either of us
I'm having a hard time adjusting and primarily I want her to get better. She is seeking help and has been seeing someone professionally about it for the past couple weeks.
In an ideal world I am more than happy to give her as much time and space as she needs to heal and then if and when that happens we can see about getting back together (this is something we both agreed would be ideal)
But she doesn't know how bad it might get or how long it might take for her to recover - or even if she will - which was one of the main reasons she ended the relationship.
Family will always be family and friendships can always be rebuilt, but I fear for the future of our relationship - if there even is one.
How can I let her know I'm still her for her if she needs me without her feeling pressured about being in a relationship again? I'm more than happy to help her out in any way I can but I don't want to come across as pushy about it - going back to being just friends is what we are trying out right now. We are trying to be as open and honest with each other about the situation as possible as well.
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‎25-07-2016 08:33 PM
‎25-07-2016 08:33 PM
Re: Dealing with a relationship breakdown due to depression
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‎27-07-2016 05:07 PM
‎27-07-2016 05:07 PM
Re: Dealing with a relationship breakdown due to depression
Thanks for the advice - had already sent her a letter just outlining how I feel about everything and discussed it also (not sure if she had received the letter at the time though).
It's the hit or miss and unknown about everything that is making me the most anxious. I want to be there for her, but I also want to give her as much time and space as she needs to focus on getting better.
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‎28-07-2016 06:10 PM
‎28-07-2016 06:10 PM
Re: Dealing with a relationship breakdown due to depression
Hi @theo-ran, It sounds like she is doing what she needs to in order to deal with her problems and it seems like she needs to focus on that at the moment, rather than being reminded of your relationship together. I think this would be a good opportunity to sort of put her problems aside for a while and focus on yourself, to remember and rediscover who you are as an individual outside of the relationship, and to spend time doing all the things that make you who you are.
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‎03-08-2016 07:08 PM
‎03-08-2016 07:08 PM
Re: Dealing with a relationship breakdown due to depression
Hi @theo-ran
Just wanted to check in to see how you're travelling.
Hope things are going okay for you.
Nik