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[Anastasia]

Are you there @greenpea ?

I wanted to make sure you're ok. My last message had a typo and I realised after I hit post.... arghhh I've fixed it up but if you saw the original before I realised the error in worried I've upset you @greenpea 

[greenpea]

@Anastasia  Hey Anastasia you definately have not upset me. You are such a lovely person. I will talk with you tomorrow and let you know how it all goes, Love always pea xxx

[Anastasia]

That is a relief @greenpea 🙏

The last thing I would want to do is upset the beautiful pea. I see you're online too. Have you had any sleep? 

[greenpea]

@Anastasia  2 hours! have you slept at all Anastasia?x

[Anastasia]

Oh hunny I'm sorry @greenpea 

About the same for me here. Two peas in a pod aren't we? 

I want to try to have a little doze. My alarm is set for 7, so hopefully catch another couple of hours 🤞

Love you little pea. 

You've got this.

Remember I'll be there with you holding your hand 🧚🧚‍♂️

[greenpea]

@Anastasia  thank you hunny. Sleep well. Talk later love pea

[Appleblossom]

Thanks @cloudcore 

Hello @Sunrise9 @DTrain  and @Shaz51 

Sorry your experience was not great @Anastasia 

It was really good to see your interaction @outlander  and @greenpea .  

In answer to the questions

1) I am waiting with "caring" things in the lap of the gods atm.  I am realising that "waiting" is a very familiar feeling for me, having been in the state system for a long time. It does not mean I am totally passive, but Should I learn to escalate more, which is what my son seems to be doing? 

Questions ....

2) Made a call to cancel one appointment today in self care.... or am I not doing enough?  More Questions ...

3) Have another bath before I lose that option.

[Tinker67]

Hey @greenpea that sounds like an incredibly tough time for your son and for you.  I hope the help you are seeking is helpful!  It can take knocking on lots of doors sometimes to find the right people to help.  How old is S2?

[Tinker67]

Good morning

It's so wonderful to read the support @Appleblossom @cloudcore @greenpea @Anastasia @Shaz51  are providing to each other.  

I wanted to answer the original questions but now I can't remember, lol!

I'll try

1.  I'm at around a 5 - middling.  I'm just weary tired.

2.  My son who lives with OCD and Schizophrenia just started a job recently, lots of support provided from me to get him through the application process etc, but he did the work and the interview and I am super proud.  But he's only 4 weeks in and he's persisting with his intention to relocate to a city 4 hours away next year because his girlfriend is moving there to go to dance school.  I feel so frazzled, I want to pull my hair out!  Getting a job and any kind of income is tough at the best of times, but at least here he has the support of his community.  I don't think he's ready to leave yet, he's only 17 and got some maturing to do.  I'm worried about him.  I decided to take the day off work today - some self care/a wellbeing day.

3.  I have decided to return to Uni study next year, time to focus on my goals for a while hey?  I've spent the last 2.5 years putting all 3 of my boy's needs first through their various serious episodes of ill health. 

[greenpea]

@Tinker67  Hey Tinker67 son2 has been mentally unwell since he was around 6 but became fully ill at 16. Thank you for your kind words. Love peaxx