Hi there @Buttercup66 ,
It sounds like it’s very stressful for all involved. As much as your daughter is hurting, it’s important you younger ones feel safe in their own home.
Does your daughter think there’s an issue?
I have BPD and one of the things I’m most grateful for was having people set boundaries. That is, they let me know what was acceptable and what was not and the consequences of my behaviour. Of course I did kick against the boundaries, but under all that, I was grateful.
put it this way… your daughter’s behaviour is a result of something much deeper. Emotional anguish which she herself probably cannot understand.
I was only reading the other day that people with BPD have the most intense emotional pain. Imagine living years with this pain?
that was my life. Until eventually, people took me under their wing and I got the support I needed. It was a hard hard road.
DBT online therapy is probably the closest you’ll get if you live away from main towns. I was fortunate enough to have 18 months of intense MBT treatment.
Good news? BPD is 100% treatable. It just needs a very tailored and careful approach.
Just hold on there.
